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“What You Think About, You Bring About”

June 9, 2011 by  
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My friend and coauthor, Dr. Rallie McAllister, told me that one day. I’d never heard it put so eloquently. It’s so true–what we think about, we bring about.

The one place in my life I notice this the most is with my kids. Ever since my younger son, Austin (now age 4), was born, I’ve tried to emphasize with my older son, Tyler (now age 5), his relationship and role as Austin’s older brother. (Of couse as Austin got older, I did the same for him.) For example, when Austin was just a baby, Tyler loved to make him smile and laugh, and I was always quick to point out, “Tyler, look how much Austin loves you! You made him smile!” When Tyler does kind things for Austin, such as sharing a toy, I’d say, “Wow, Tyler, that was awesome. You’re such a great big brother.”

It’s amazing how Tyler has grown into a really incredible big brother. This morning, the boys were playing with Lego-like building blocks. We have four of one particular, red, triangular shaped block. Tyler had two of them, Austin had one, and one was missing. “I’ll help you to look for the fourth one,” I told them. Without missing a beat, Tyler said, “Oh, thanks! That way Austin can have two blocks also.” It never would occur to him that he should have one more block.

He’s My Brother

September 19, 2010 by  
Filed under J.Bright

“I miss my buddy Austin,” Tyler (four) wailed. I had taken Tyler to a classmate’s birthday party. There were dozens of little boys, games to play, and pizza and cake to eat. But Tyler wanted none of it. “Why couldn’t I just stay home and play with Austin?” Tyler asked sadly.

I explained that we were invited, we were here, and we would make the best of it. Tyler did have a very good time, playing with one of his closest friends, but he wasn’t sad when it was time to go home.

Later that night, I compared notes with my husband. Mike reported that Austin (two) had said the same things. “Why couldn’t Tyler’s friends come to play here?” he asked, crying. “I miss my buddy Tyler.”

It’s an important goal of mine for Tyler and Austin to be close, to watch out for each other, and to love each other. Mike and I have stressed the positives in Tyler and Austin’s relationship, such as pointing out, “Look how  happy you made your brother” when one of them makes the other smile and referring to them as “your buddy” or “your brother.” A brother is a friend who never has to go home.


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